Published by Guy Reichard on January 19th, 2011 in Confidence
The Inner Critic – a messenger of self critical thoughts – can control your every move and your every word. It might tell you, “That’s too risky, don’t even think about it” or “Don’t even consider it, you’ll get embarrassed”. Most of the time just a couple of ‘messages’ from this voice is enough to stop you from thinking about following that dream or even just doing what you want to do or say.
Learn how to soften its blows and defuse its powerful grip on your life.
Whether self doubt is holding you back from fulfilling a great dream, from being more productive at work or from connecting with others more freely, we could all stand to gain a lot by having more self confidence and believing in ourselves more than our doubts and fears.
Read this article and do the included self-coaching exercise to shift from self doubt to self confidence.
We wear masks because we all want to be and feel accepted by others – belonging is a very strong and basic human need.
There comes a time in people’s lives when they begin to value how they feel about themselves more than they value what others think of them; where they value self respect more than the respect or acceptance of others. There is an astonishing power and sense of freedom and lightness that comes from being authentic. It is so powerful and vivid that after a while, being ‘real’ is the only option worth considering.
When we are caught in the routine of life, most of us aren’t using our strengths very often and we end up feeling unfulfilled and ungratified. Coaching helps people discover, or rediscover, their best selves by tapping into their unique and natural strengths and coaching them towards mindfully choosing to use those strengths in their lives more often – sometimes by changing how they do something (their approach) and sometimes by changing the things they actually do (e.g. career).
Beneath every thought and every single thing we perceive and interpret lies a belief within us. A belief is a web of thoughts and past interpretations that form a generalization of many notions and concepts. Over time this generalization has taken root within our minds and sometimes it can even feel like it has taken root in our hearts, when we believe something so deeply, we can feel it on a visceral level.
With these generalizations, we interpret and shape our lives as they happen.
