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I’m writing this blog with the intention of helping people learn life changing concepts and principles, as well as to share my own reflections and perspectives as a coach. In coaching sessions I don’t do very much talking, I simply ask intuitive questions to spark new insights and possibilities and guide the client towards their own choices & commitments.

There are times when I feel called to share “teaching pieces”; either a helpful model, concept or way of understanding their situation from another perspective. Often it was just what they were needing to hear. Then I offer the suggestion that they learn more about it through books or other resources. I want to provide one of those resources here for you – a self-coaching resource.

To make it more interactive for you, feel free to leave your comments at the bottom of each post and I’ll be glad to respond.


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How, When & Why I Started My Journey of Personal Growth

A lot of people ask me how I started my journey of personal growth, especially people who are interested in working with me. They don’t just want to know that I took a course or read a book, they really want to know why, and what I was experiencing that led me to seek a new way of living. This is about starting my journey to find inner peace

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Exchanging Presence

Imagine, exchanging the word Presents with Presence – so instead of buying material gifts this year, you offered those you care about your true presence. What Is Presence? Presence is a state of being, grounded in the here and now, in harmony with this very moment, no matter where you are, who you’re with or what you’re doing. It’s the most meaningful gift you could give someone (and yourself).

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Coincidence, Synchronicity & Dr. Joe

A meaningful coincidence is when two or more events that are unlikely to be related in any way, come together for a reason. When it happens or when we reflect on it later, we get the shivers and goosebumps and feel deeply connected to something greater than ourselves and have a gut sense that it’s more than mere chance at play. This post is about one example that just came up in my life and I had to share it with you.

Carl Jung said that synchronicities help pull us out of our egocentric thinking into a greater wholeness. Deepak Chopra said that synchronicities are clues to fulfilling our deepest dreams and desires. And that is why I’m sharing this with you. Perhaps it will help you reflect more deeply on a coincidence that’s happened to you or is about to happen for you and helps you decide what to do next in your life.

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Life Doesn’t Wait, So Quit Stalling and Start Living!

Life doesn’t wait. Like a river’s constant flow, it doesn’t wait for anyone’s permission or readiness but the invitation is there to jump, step or gracefully slide in at any time and ride the flow. Are you wanting to start something new, take a big leap, make a major transition or simply do one thing you know you’ve want to do but have been stalling on for a long time? And the more you stall, the more confused you get about wanting to take action?

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Welcome 2014! Lessons in Facing Fear

Happy New Year It’s now been two weeks since 2014 began. How are you enjoying it so far? Has it been good to you? Have you been good to it and to yourself? Did you make any resolutions? Have you been sticking to them? Has it been easy or hard? Here’s a little video I’d like you to see: (please click the link below and the video will open in a new window) – it’s a clip of me on New Year’s Day, being interviewed on National Television. LIVE. The rest of this post isn’t about resolutions though but about my personal experience of facing one of my deepest fears and some tips I can offer to help you face your own. The Backstory I was given less than 24 hours notice to be on TV. Actually, at first, I was requested to be on with only a few hours notice (on New Year’s Eve) and I passed on the opportunity, as I’ve done in the past. On the spot, I was offered a second chance to do the interview the following day. My body was starting to feel the fear. I took an hour to think about it and said affirmatively, yes, I’d love to be there. Even though a big part of me wanted the producer to tell me “sorry, someone else filled the spot” – an even bigger part of me wanted to face this and start my year off with courage and trust in myself. This made New Year’s Eve kind of interesting. I was making a nice dinner for my wife… minor panic... read more

Taming Your Gremlin by Rick Carson: Book Recommendation

I highly recommend this book to all who feel plagued by the Gremlin within and would like to live their lives with more inner peace, mental clarity, more compassion to ourselves and others, and who would finally like to see what life can be like if we were our natural selves.

A special thanks and tons of admiration and respect for the author Rick Carson who has helped so many people throughout the world (including me) with his loving, compassionate and wise lessons.

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The Virtue of Wisdom & Its Character Strengths – Video Series

Consider the Character Strengths below that relate to Wisdom and how using one of them alone or in combination with strengths from other virtues (courage, humanity, justice, temperance, transcendence) towards a goal could make you feel. It’s been proven that using our strengths in meaningful pursuits engages people (creates that feeling of flow and brings people into the “Zone”) and creates long-lasting fulfillment. So, it’s up to us to discover our strengths and continuously find new ways of using them.

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Finding Your Inner Voice & Learning to Trust It

Your True Inner Voice – The Voice of the Heart & Soul You’ve probably heard it many times before – “trust your inner voice, it’s the voice of wisdom. It knows what’s best for you and if you only trust it, choices and decisions that seem difficult will answer themselves.” We’ve heard it expressed in other ways too: “follow your heart, it will never fail you”, or “trust your gut, it’s always right”. But it never seems as simple as they say. “Everyone who wills can hear the inner voice. It is within everyone.” ~ Mahatma Ghandi “Don’t die with your music still inside you. Listen to your intuitive inner voice and find what passion stirs your soul.” ~ Wayne Dyer I believe the above to be true but getting to the point where I could actually recognize my inner voice and then learn to trust it, has been a continual work in progress. There are several reasons why it’s so hard to hear your inner voice and even harder to learn to trust it. Whether we realize it or not, most of the time our minds are flooded with an incessant stream of thoughts. Sometimes the stream is more like a gushing waterfall and other times it’s like a slow moving river. For most people, the mind runs on autopilot and keeps thinking, analyzing, interpreting, judging, commentating and suggesting all day long and we let it pull us into its current without a second ‘thought’. If we slowed that stream down for a few moments and stopped to reflect upon it, we could also notice that the mind... read more

Character Strengths Series: Routes to a Happy & Meaningful Life

Following this post, which provides a brief overview of character strengths, I’ll publish one post for each of the Core Virtues and will include a video about a person (or group) who lives and breathes the strengths associated with it.
If I’m lucky I’ll find one video for each strength but it’s proving to be more challenging and time intensive than I thought. The first video, however, is within and it’s an interview with none other than the father of the Positive Psychology movement, Martin Seligman.

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SAD Times: More Than a Case of The Winter Blues

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) It’s normal to have some down days here and there – despite all your best efforts of living a happy and healthy lifestyle. But this isn’t just a case of the blues or a few bad moods, is it? It’s worse and you don’t know when it’s going to stop or get better. It could be Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), a form of depression. It’s good that you’re reading this – you’re not alone and you’re not going crazy – in fact, SAD is fairly common and affects about 2-3% of people in Canada. That’s a lot of people. What’s even more common is that people are afraid to talk about it because it’s a mental health issue and so they suffer alone, which just makes things worse. Let me start by saying I’m not a medical doctor or psychotherapist and what I share below is provided purely out of a desire to help people suffering get clear about what they’re experiencing so they can get the help they need. I’m writing this as a coach and as one of the 2-3% of Canadians who have this special gift (I’m not being sarcastic). I’ve had SAD nearly every year of my whole life and some years were pretty bad, especially when I was younger and had no clue what I was going through. If you’re desperate and truly suffering, please go speak to a doctor, the sooner the better. It is treatable and you could be feeling better very soon. That said, now let’s take a look at some internal/physical symptoms and then some external... read more

Forgiveness: Giving Yourself a Fresh Start

With the new year upon us – I wanted to prepare something to help everyone create the best year possible. In previous years around this time, I’ve written about intentions and heart smart goals, a distinct variation from resolutions. This year I wanted to share something different as well, something I thought would be good for the soul.

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The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle: Book Recommendation

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment It’s been about 9 years since I read this book for the first time and I’ve read it and studied it several times since. It was given to me as a gift from my wife (then girlfriend) and what an incredible gift it’s been, time and time again. Over the course of my conscious personal growth journey, whenever times got tough and I lost myself in fear or worry or even anger, I went back to this book to remember its lessons. This book changed the course and nature of my life and I hope it does the same for you. It’s all about understanding and embracing the power that exists in the present moment and that most, if not all, of our ‘needless’ suffering comes from us identifying with our minds and living in a state of unconsciousness. Almost everybody lives like this but most aren’t aware of it because they feel it’s normal, it’s just the way it is. Is that hard to hear? That we are unconscious? Do you feel any resistance to that point? Welcome to your EGO. This book will teach you about your ego – a false self created from all the stories of your past and your interpretations of all the events of your life. We are highly controlled and influenced by our egos and it produces most of our thoughts, emotions and our actions. Our real selves, our true spirits, are suppressed and since there is so much noise going on in our minds, we barely even notice that we’re living a... read more

Consciousness, Choice & Accountability

Every day is made up of 86,400 seconds. Each second is an opportunity to choose who you are Right Now. It’s a choice to stop reliving your past, to live in the present and to consciously create your future, moment by moment. It’s also a choice to give up your right to choose and let life take you where it may. It’s a choice you are accountable for.

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Happy Mother’s Day

To all the mothers in the world, especially my own, happy mother’s day! I consider myself so fortunate and I’m so grateful to have such a wonderful person in my life to love me, raise me, provide for me, shelter me, nurture me, protect me, enrich me, guide me and to set me free to be the man I am today. Thank you Mum – I love you with all my heart! No matter what your relationship is with your own mother today, whether she’s ever present or long since gone, take a moment today to reflect and thank your mother for bringing you into this world. Happy Mother’s Day!  ... read more

Presence, Consciousness & Life Purpose: Aligning With the Now

You will learn who you truly are beneath the story and stories of the mind and ultimately what your life purpose is all about. The reason why I share it here is because I see coaching as a shared journey, a deep and meaningful relationship that facilitates such awareness and being-ness in another person over time. I hope this will help those interested in experiencing less fear, stress, anxiety, pressure and suffering in their lives while increasing their levels of inner peace, contentment, connection with self and others, and more joy in life.

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Happiness Flow Productivity & Profits

I am still buzzing after watching this speech yesterday and I wanted to share it with everyone. Vishen Lakhiani of Mindvalley, a publishing company, shares the story of his company’s success at a conference in Calgary, Alberta. This is no typical success story and not a typical company. This is the new model of success: one built on happiness, flow, gratitude and to adopt his firm’s foundational mantra “Awesomeness”! You may never have heard of him but he was invited to speak among luminaries and business moguls such as Sir Richard Branson, His Holiness the Dalai Lama, Stephen Covey, Tony Hsieh and several others. His speech was voted as the best of the entire event. He speaks about why “Happiness is the New Productivity”. I share this with you to inspire you and encourage you to believe you could do the same with your company! Here are his 10 Tips (and I’m paraphrasing) for how to master the state of flow and bring it to your company, your teams, your families, and the groups you lead.  Express Daily Gratitude and share it widely  Acknowledge the Positive & Celebrate – Create an Awesomeness Report  Profit Sharing with Employees  Spread Praise (Sweet Sugar Love Machine)  45/5 Rule – Work a 45-hour week and spend 5 hours of it learning something new  Weekly Sharing & Training  Group Meditation  Company Sponsored Fun  Positive Stamina Experiences & Connections  ... read more

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